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Theoretical Influences

Alongside lived experience and applied clinical practice, the work presented here is informed by established clinical frameworks in attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and recovery from self-abandonment.
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The voices listed below reflect influences that helped shape the perspective and approach underlying ENOUGH.


Bowlby, J. (1988). A secure base: Parent-child attachment and healthy human development. Basic Books.

Brown, B. (2012). Daring greatly: How the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead. Gotham Books.


Cloud, H., & Townsend, J. (1992). Boundaries: When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan.

Levine, P. A. (2010). In an unspoken voice: How the body releases trauma and restores goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Mellody, P. (1989). Facing codependence: What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our lives. Harper & Row.


Mellody, P., Miller, A. W., & Miller, J. K. (2003). Facing codependence: What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our lives (Rev. ed.). HarperOne.
Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.

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Consulting is not therapy. Self-help books are not therapy. Melinda 
is a licensed marriage & family therapist in three states: California, lic no 102308, Oklahoma, lic no 1153, and North Carolina lic no 2143  She is the Founder & Executive Director of Family & Children's Counseling Services, Inc..in Northern California. (www.HealPlayLove.org).


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      • When Time Disappears
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      • Why Do We Self-Sabotage?
      • When Effort Isn't the Problem
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    • ENOUGH: Living Your Live in the Right Measure >
      • Contexts Where ENOUGH Is Relevant​
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      • About the Book Burn the Ships
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